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Meeting Someone's Needs On Their Terms is a Superpower: Five Practical "How To" Tips.

Updated: Mar 27


Thought Provocateur Series from The Nexus Initiative covering the importance of meeting someone’s needs.  For tips on how to increase your meeting someone’s needs, please see the following website.   https://www.thenexusinitiative.com/post/meeting-someone-s-needs-on-their-terms-is-a-superpower-five-practical-how-to-tips
Thought Provocateur Series from The Nexus Initiative covering the importance of meeting someone’s needs. For tips on how to increase your meeting someone’s needs, please see the following website. https://www.thenexusinitiative.com/post/meeting-someone-s-needs-on-their-terms-is-a-superpower-five-practical-how-to-tips


What would happen if you met someone’s need solely on their terms while maintaining a positive attitude about it?


All successful relationships, personal or professional, involve a continual exchange of needs being met. 


If the exchange of needs becomes too one-sided or stops, the relationship declines in quality or may stop completely.


Example Needs Include:


  • Learn something new

  • Psychological Safety

  • Make a Difference

  • Financial stability

  • Compensation

  • Understanding

  • Reciprocation

  • Appreciation

  • Help others

  • Validation

  • Belonging

  • Security

  • Respect

  • Care


And many, many more.


When we meet someone’s needs - on their terms - we show that we see them, we value their needs, and we care.  ALL essential components of successful relationships.


This kind of awareness is the heart of Emotional Intelligence. It's also why developing Emotional Intelligence is a critical aspect of high performance, engagement, and retention. Why? Because people want to spend time and energy in places, and with people, who meet their needs over time. If you continually don't meet people's needs over time, they leave. Simple as that.


Five Tips to Meet Someone's Needs On Their Terms


  1. Remember, it's about THEIR needs, not yours.

  2. What you think their needs should be DOES NOT EQUAL their needs. It's not about you, or what you you want them to need instead. So, put phrases like the following out of your mind. "You don't need that," "That's not important," "Why don't you need this instead,"

  3. Focus all of your attention on understanding their need as they describe it. Active listening and understanding are critical.

  4. Reflect and validate: Summarize what you heard them say.

  5. Do what they ask. On their terms



The Challenge?


Today, to meet someone's needs solely on their terms. And with a positive attitude.


See what happens!




Thought Provocateur Social Media Series

The inspiration for the Thought Provocateur Social Media Series is that I love it when I encounter questions or bits of wisdom that stop me in my tracks. These insights stay in your head for more than five minutes and may come back later to revisit you. It’s when the signal outweighs the noise. You tend to remember them because they touch something deep inside of us.


About The Nexus Initiative

The Nexus Initiative is a boutique executive coaching firm whose mission is to develop emotionally intelligent and mentally agile leaders and teams. Our approach leverages real-world operating experience, multi-disciplinary thinking, industry-leading certifications, and a Wharton MBA.



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