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Discounting the Positive

Part I:  Description

Discounting the Positive: How to Stop This Harmful Habit

Are you your own harshest critic? Do good things happen that you immediately minimize or explain away? This is called discounting the positive – a cognitive distortion that makes positive situations feel less impactful than they truly are.

What is discounting the positive?

  • Negativity bias: You focus on the tiny negatives while ignoring major positives.

  • Internal vs. external attributions: Success is luck, but failure is your fault.

  • Minimizing success: It "doesn't count" or "anyone could have done that."

  • Rejecting compliments: They're seen as lies or exaggeration, not genuine appreciation.

Why do people discount the positive?

  • Low self-esteem: "I don't deserve good things, this can't be real."

  • Depression/anxiety: These conditions create negativity bias in thinking.

  • Perfectionism: Nothing's ever good enough, so why even celebrate?

  • Toxic environments: Raised to feel undeserving can make positives feel wrong.

The Harm of Discounting the Positive

  • Happiness suffers: Never enjoying the good makes life feel consistently negative.

  • Lack of motivation: If nothing you do matters, why try?

  • Relationship damage: Pushing away support makes people feel unappreciated.

  • Negative self-image: This reinforces the idea that you're fundamentally flawed.

How to Stop Discounting the Positive

  • Challenge negative thoughts: Actively question the self-criticism.

  • Practice gratitude: Write down good things daily, no matter how small.

  • Celebrate success: Own your wins! It wasn't just luck.

  • Accept compliments: Say "thank you", believe they may be genuine.

  • Therapy: CBT techniques help break this ingrained thought pattern.

Key Takeaways

Discounting the positive is common, but destructive. With awareness and practice, you can change this habit! Let yourself enjoy the good things and build a kinder, more accurate view of yourself.

Part II:  Common Questions

How do I know if I discount the positive?

  • Self-awareness is key: Pay attention to your immediate reactions after something good happens. Do you instantly downplay it, question if it's real, or feel like you don't deserve it? These are signs of discounting the positive.

  • Look for the patterns: Do you tend to focus on negatives in a situation more than positives? Constantly attributing good things to external forces (luck, others' help) rather than your own effort is another hallmark.

  • Consider your reactions to compliments: Do you dismiss them or feel a strong urge to explain why the praise isn't accurate? This can be a form of discounting positive feedback.

Is discounting the positive a sign of a mental health condition?

  • Not always a direct diagnosis: While it can be a symptom of disorders like depression and anxiety, discounting the positive on its own isn't enough for a diagnosis.

  • Impact is key: If it significantly compromises your happiness, relationships, and self-image, it's worth talking to a mental health professional regardless of a specific label.

  • It may be learned behavior: Discounting the positive can also stem from experiences like growing up in a critical environment without much positive affirmation.

How can I stop discounting the positive?

  • Challenge those thoughts: Don't accept the negativity your brain automatically throws at you. Ask if it's fair, and look for evidence to the contrary.

  • Gratitude practice: Actively focusing on good things, even small ones, helps rewire your brain to notice the positive.

  • Work on your attributions: Celebrate your wins, give yourself credit! It wasn't all luck or other people making it happen.

  • Accept compliments gracefully: Try a simple "thank you" and fight the urge to argue against the positive view someone has of you.

  • Therapy for deeper patterns: If discounting the positive is deeply ingrained, a therapist can help with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to change those thought patterns.

Part III:  Additional Resources

Introductory Articles and Blogs About Discounting the Positive

  1. "What is Discounting the Positive?" (The Berkeley Well-Being Institute): A clear, concise explanation of the concept, its manifestations, and why it matters.

  1. "Why You Might Be Discounting the Positive Things in Your Life" (Psychology Today): Explores the psychological mechanisms behind this distortion and how it connects to self-esteem issues.

Self-Help Guides About Discounting the Positive

  1. "Positive Mental Errors - Positive Discounting" (The Positive Psychology Program): Offers examples and practical exercises to start recognizing and challenging discounting the positive in your own life.

  2. "Discounting the Positive" Worksheet (Therapist Aid): Provides a simple worksheet for identifying this cognitive distortion in your thinking and brainstorming alternative, more balanced responses.

Books About Discounting the Positive

"Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy" by Dr. David Burns:  

  1. A classic Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) book. While not solely dedicated to discounting the positive, it teaches the core skills for identifying and reframing cognitive distortions.

"The Happiness Trap" by Russ Harris: 

  1. This book based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) includes a section on recognizing and working through the negativity bias that feeds into discounting the positive.

Mental Health Websites About Discounting the Positive

  1. The International OCD Foundation: As discounting the positive often occurs alongside anxiety, resources about perfectionism and intrusive thoughts can be helpful in understanding these connections.

  1. Mind UK: This organization offers information and support for various mental health conditions, including depression, which can worsen the tendency to discount the positive.

Part IV:  Disclaimer

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